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1 IN 10 FATHERS IS AFFECTED BY POSTPARTUM DEPRESSION
Depression during pregnancy and early parenthood doesn’t just affect new moms-fathers are at risk too. If you’ve recently become a father, or are about to become one, we have information and resources to help you manage stress and take care of yourself.
MATERNAL MENTAL HEALTH OVERVIEW
NEW FATHERHOOD IS HARDER THAN ANYONE WARNS YOU
Any parent will tell you that raising kids is the most fulfilling thing they’ve ever done-and the most demanding. They’ll probably also tell you that things can feel hardest at the beginning, when it’s all new and you’re still figuring out how to change a diaper.
And while we all recognize how hard things can get for mothers, it’s important to cut yourself some slack and realize that fathers are in the thick of it too.
If you’re finding your new father’s life harder than you expected, you’re not the only one. It’s a tough gig — one that can feel chaotic and relentless at times.
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DEPRESSION AND ANXIETY IN NEW FATHERS
Most people are aware that depression and anxiety may affect new mothers, but did you know that fathers are also at risk? Almost 50 percent of fathers aren’t aware of this fact.
THE FACTS
Depression & Anxiety in New Fathers
1 IN 10
fathers/partners experience depression between the first trimester and baby's first year
1 IN 6
fathers/partners experience anxiety during pregnancy
1 IN 5
fathers/partners experience anxiety in the postpartum period
~50%
of fathers aren't aware they are at risk of depression and anxiety
IS YOUR BABY PREMATURE OR UNWELL?
If your baby is premature or has health complications, they may need to spend time in the hospital. This can be an extremely distressing situation for any new parent and can increase your risk of developing postpartum mental health disorders. It’s important to look after your mental health. Make sure you take advantage of any support that’s offered and ask what else is available to help you.
The more you answered ‘yes’ to these questions and recognize these scenarios, the greater your risk of developing PPD/PPA.
This doesn’t mean you’ll automatically experience a mental health condition, but it’s important to keep an eye on your thoughts, feelings, and behavior. If you notice changes in yourself, or you’re experiencing some of the symptoms listed below, it’s time to seek support.
WHAT CAUSES DEPRESSION IN PERINATAL WOMEN?
The signs and symptoms of perinatal mood disorders in new dads can overlap with the stress and exhaustion of caring for a baby. However, becoming a father can also bring unique emotional challenges. If you notice several signs or predominantly negative thoughts about yourself, your partner, or your baby, seeking support can be important.
SELF-CHECK
ARE YOU AT RISK?
Ask yourself how many of the following apply to you.
Have you had depression and/or anxiety before?
Do you have a lack of practical, emotional, or social support?
Did you support your partner through a difficult birth?
Are you going through major life changes or relationship difficulties?
Does your partner have postpartum depression and/or anxiety?
Are you feeling the burden of financial stress?
Do you have current or past issues with drugs or alcohol?
Are you finding parenting different from your expectations?
WHEN IT FEELS LIKE TOO MUCH
IF YOU’RE REALLY STRUGGLING…
Just like your physical health, sometimes your mental health needs a bit of extra care and attention. Tune in to how you’re feeling and how it’s impacting your life. Find someone you can talk to honestly about how your new role is affecting you-this may be your partner, a friend, a family member, or a counselor.
It’s OK to ask for support-you don’t have to deal with everything on your own. If a belief that you should be able to handle things by yourself is stopping you from reaching out, it’s time to ask yourself-honestly-if this approach is working for you.
This might mean getting more practical help from extended family, contacting a professional for advice on a sleeping or feeding issue, or talking with your employer about work demands.
LOOKING AFTER YOURSELF
Many new fathers/partners feel they need to be their family’s ‘rock’. This can often mean shouldering the pressure that comes with being a father on their own, without any support from those around them.
You might think your partner has enough to deal with, and be reluctant to share your pain and stress with them. Or you might fear being seen as weak or that you’re somehow ‘failing’ in your new role as a father.
SELF-CARE
LOOKING AFTER YOURSELF
Many new fathers feel they need to be their family’s “rock.” But it’s not selfish to look after yourself — in fact, it’s one of the best things you can do for your family. A happy, healthy father helps your baby grow and helps your partner feel more supported.
REMEMBER THE BASICS
Diet, exercise, and sleep are the building blocks of how you feel — and often the first things to slip when life gets turned upside down by a baby.
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LISTEN TO YOUR SELF-TALK
Notice black-and-white thinking like "I'm not a good dad." Decide whether it's helpful, and steer your inner voice in a kinder direction.
GET CREATIVE ABOUT TIME
Can you catch up on sleep while a friend or grandparent takes the baby out? Exercise during lunch at work? Prep weekly meals on the weekend?
CHECK YOUR MINDSET
You're not expected to know everything. Give yourself permission to learn as you go — it puts mistakes in perspective.
STAY INVOLVED
It's tempting to withdraw when stress builds, but staying hands-on with your baby builds confidence and starts a cycle of positive interactions.
CONNECT WITH OTHER FATHERS
Talking with other dads who "get it" can make you feel far less alone. There are groups just for men adjusting to fatherhood.